My name is Lantz Howard and it wasn’t all that long ago that I burnt out as an executive leader.
However, I thought I had “arrived” and I believed that I was made to “lead” and “climb my portion of the ladder”. (All that’s a lie by the way). I would say I had an amazing marriage, but on the inside I was lonely because of the demands at work and the homefront beginning to be too much. I was afraid of the future as we had our fourth daughter… I had four girls all under the age of 5. It was a lot. I thought I was calm and connected, but on the inside there was so much chaos and confusion going on. Primarily about, “how the hell am I going to take care of this much responsibility!” I was becoming more passive, but really was “leading” from everyone’s perspective. I kept taking on more then I could handle.
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I kept “doing all the things” but my soul was adrift. I remember leading a group of men feeling all alone in my fear and anxiety. The question for the night and discussion I was leading was “what do you want?” I did not dare answer the question because I wanted out of the job that I was leading them in as a minister. I wanted out and I was uncertain who my safe people were. Of course, no one really pushed me on the answer, but that begin a spiral of events and even God gave me signs that it was time to move on.
In my desperation, I continued to die on the inside and reached out to many men along the way, but never felt like I got my lifeboat or the friend that said “let’s walk this together.” In a nutshell, I am desiring to help this person not mess their life up and take their life to the next level.
Most men will experience a similar story of suffering and failure between 36-45, if they learn the lesson that God was teaching they will thrive and live with significance. The sad reality is that most men continue this miserable cycle until they die.
But not you…you are here and I can tell you’re ready to go through the transformation!